Tell the Truth Tuesday: Wherein I Get Real About Drowning


Well, here I am again, talking about drowning (or being in the weeds, etc). It is a well-known fact that I take on too much. There, I’ve admitted it. I have a hard time saying “no” to things. It isn’t that I don’t want to offend people; or that, like so many other bright individuals, I feel like I have to say yes all the time. No, for me it is a different set of issues all together. Two of them to be exact:

  1. I feel like I need to prove myself over and over – and saying “yes” somehow does that (I already know the fault in my thinking, trust me)
  2. I generally under-estimate my fatigue with some projects and resultant time delay on others.

It’s a never-ending cycle…

And one I hate.

There is nothing worse than feeling like I’ve let others down – or worse, let myself down over and over and over again.

So, I am getting real with myself and adjusting my expectations and goals.

For example – my original writing goal for 2014 was as follows:

  • NONFICTION – complete two nonfiction manuscripts and a nonfiction proposal
  • FICTION – complete and release three books and one short story

What the heck was I thinking??? Even looking at this all typed out is enough to give me a mini panic attack!

The revised goal is a tad more reasonable:

  • NONFICTION – Complete manuscript on contract (by July) and research for second NF manuscript under contract
  • FICTION – complete Collide for a summer release and complete a draft (minimum) of the first book in the Tempting Fate series
  • Additional writing – Update social media presence (over summer); blog schedule for fall 2014-summer 2015; release schedule for same time frame

See – much more reasonable. So much so, that I swear I feel a TON better.

I’ve revamped my other goals as well, putting an emphasis on both realistic  expectations for myself and giving myself permission to NOT be everything to everyone. It’s a small start on regain the balance since my mom died – but an important one!

What do you do when you get overwhelmed?

 

 

In The Weeds


Wow! I can’t believe I all but deserted by blog! Shoot! That was not my intent at all. I’ve been buried – with more work than I can handle on every front: Work, writing, home. It’s been a tad overwhelming.

But it’s been good, too.

I have some big plans for the blog, my coaching and consulting life, my nonfiction writing – huge plans. But, I am not in a place to get it all going. In truth, I need to spend May getting out of the weeds.

I will be around to post at least weekly – I don’t want you all to think I’ve completely disappeared. And then, around mid-June, I’ll be ready to talk to all of you about my plans.

Until then, enjoy this little quote I got from my journal this morning:

quoteHave a great week!

 

Weekly Update


Hi everyone! The behind the scenes work on the new blog focus and look is coming along….slowly. As I am finishing up the book in preparation for it’s release later this month, my presence on the blogesphere will be somewhat scarce. I have to finish things up around here, as well as major edits that demand my attention and a quick trip out of town before Spring Break ends.

So yes, It’s busy as always around here!

Before I disappear for a while, I wanted to leave you with a couple of things:

1) I just signed the contract for my SIXTH nonfiction book, SUCCESS HABITS FOR THE 21ST CENTURY, due out in 2016.

2) For those of you sick of the winter and wondering when summer will ever arrive – check out this pic shot yesterday as I took a little detour from my Dr.’s appointment:

3) I finally formalized my life and parent coaching business and am beginning to take new clients. I’ll be posting information on my website and here soon.
See you all in a few days/weeks…

 

Finally! Focus!


I am so excited for the future of the blog. After stewing on it for months, I have finally decided what I want to do. So, in May I will be relaunching the blog and bringing NEW content, and more. I will do as I mentioned previous, and repost some of my favorite posts. And the relaunch won’t be 100% ready in may, but it’ll be enough to start.

Basically, I want to bring consistent and regular content to you, my readers, that covers the things I care so much about:

  • Giftedness – in children and adults
  • Parent coaching
  • Living authentically
  • Living healthy
  • Inspiration
  • Awesome books
  • and more…

So, as I strive get this going be prepared for a little oddness, and yea…a MESS.

 

Thanks for sticking with me and see you in the near future!

Replay: Stress and the gifted adult by Jen Merrill


Hi all – As you’ve no-doubt noticed, my unplugged week was extended. My reasons are simple: A complete directional change for the blog. I “think” I’ve finally figured out exactly what I want to write about, etc. So, it’ll take me a while to get the blog redesigned, repurposed etc. I am hoping to roll-out the new whatevers within the next couple of months. I’m excited for everything, but it IS going to take a little while to get it all together. More on that in the upcoming weeks.

In the meantime, as things are getting worked out etc, I am reposting some of the all-time BEST posts this little blog has had over its four year lifetime. Starting with today and a post by one of my favorite authors: Jen Merrill

STRESS AND THE GIFTED ADULTS - originally posted on 4/13/2012

I did an entirely unscientific survey the other day on my Facebook page, asking my friends to describe me in one word. In minutes, I got back: intense, exhausting, hilarious, passionate, determined, embracer, funny (3), intelligent, beautiful (kinda shocked by that one), inspirational, witty, human, gifted, busy, quirky, ardent, helpful, struggling, self-deprecating, frazzled, overwhelmed, high-strung, and sexy (thank you, dear husband!).

Huh. That’s funny. The first word I think of to describe myself is stressed.

Gifted adults and stress::peanut butter and jelly::peas and carrots::me and Jen-nay (name that movie). For as long as I can remember, I have been one huge mind-knot. It’s like mental Chinese handcuffs; you know, those woven things you stick your fingers into, and the harder you try to escape, the tighter they get. I once had a flute teacher recommend that I get hammered and then hit the practice room, the thought being that maybe being a little looser I’d be able to play better. She may have been on to something there, but I didn’t drink back then and rarely play my flute now. The world will never know…

But I know I’m not alone in this. I know there are other gifted adults who get into mind knots, who have an extremely difficult time controlling their stress, who have been teased about being addicted to stomach acid. It’s a horrible feeling. For someone who is just a tiny bit of a control freak, being controlled by stress is dreadful. Having that scream lodged in the back of the throat, crouched and ready to pounce without warning…sigh… I’ve tried yoga, acupuncture, therapy, lifted weights, dabbled in meditation, had “me” time, journaled, and generally expressed my feelings. The more I worked to manage my stress, the worse it got.

So I’ve made an executive decision. This is my wiring. This is the result of my biggest overexcitabilities, emotional and imaginational, hooking up; they popped out a little bundle of stress. It’s not good, it’s not bad, it just is. Then it hit me…if I worked with this wiring instead of against it, maybe the mind knot would loosen. Like homeschooling my 2e son; working with his intensities rather than against them gets us a lot further a lot faster. All those books I own on intensities and overexcitabilities and the like will now be read with me in mind as well. If I can harness these intensities for good rather than evil, I suspect I’ll feel a lot better. At the very least I’d like that scream to vamoose.

In the meantime, I really need to investigate some of those descriptive words. I don’t see myself in most of those words; only two. Wanna guess which ones? And if you were to ask your friends this question, what words would you see?
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You can find Jen at Laughing at Chaos and on her Facebook page by the same name.

Unplugged Week


Unplug

Time for another week of unplugging. And yes, I know it seems as though all I’ve done is unplug. But I promise great things are in store this Spring, including:

  • A little remodel for Spring!
  • Webinars and podcasts. Yep, that’s right – I am fulfilling a goal and bringing you MORE content. But not just any content, we are going to talk about so many GREAT things we can do to live our BEST life and bring more joy to our parenting and our lives
  • Parenting advice and tips
  • Exciting new blogs, books, and other things to read and follow
  • Book news
  • Consultation and event news
  • Coaching news

See, lots of cool things going on! Make sure you don’t miss any of it – sign up for my newsletter and follow this blog

I’ll be back on 3/10 with all sorts of new things! See you then

Got Inspiration?


Hi all -

It has been a crazy week. Short work weeks always are! I wanted to stop by to give a quick shout out to my new favorite YouTube channels, Mindvalley  and Awesomenessfest. If you are in need of inspiration, motivation, or just some awesomeness, check out there many videos – especially those from awesomenessfest. To show you what I mean, check out this great one from Lisa Nichols:

See – amazing! Subscribe to their channel to get even more great vids.