Whew, what a fabulous launch day. You guys were all so amazingly supportive and I am thrilled! I am keeping the party going through Oct 15, so be sure to keep stopping by for fab chances to win everything from book swag to 30 minute consultations with me re gifted stuff and 10 page crits. WOO HOO!!! I love parties!
For today, I wanted to give you a brief overview of the amazing #gtchat yesterday and throw in another little contest for some great swag and a little surprise.
First off, I need to thank Deborah Mersino for hosting #gtchat. The session was fast and furious (check out the transcript). And for my friends that I KNOW were lurking, thanks! I felt your good vibes through the interwebz.
The chat started off with a rapid firing of questions. Most of them had to do with dealing with the more explosive nature of emotional intensity and how to manage it.
So I thought I’d give a few tips here.
The best time to deal with a behavioral explosion is before it ever happens. These few things can really help prevent most behavioral outbursts:
- Set a strong foundation that includes good communication and boundaries
- Work with the child to develop an emotional vocabulary and cuing system to alert the child when their behavior is slipping
- Work with the child on ways to relax and descalate
Sometimes explosions still happen. Here are some ideas on managing it safely.
- Don’t get hooked into the drama
- Using a calm voice, clearly state what you require of the child
- Make sure the child is safe
- Give YOURSELF a time away if needed to avoid getting hooked
This is the time to regroup and reteach.
- Debrief with the child – going over what went wrong in terms of the child’s behavioral control
- Remember that explosions are opportunities to reteach the behavior you want
- Discuss the consequences
- Deliver the consequence
This is a very bried overview, but you get the general idea. My book, Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students has more detail on ways to handle each part of the escaltion cycle.
Now, on to the fun stuff….a little contest
Leave a comment on THIS post and you can win the following:
- sticky notes
- a couple of great magazines related to giftedness from Prufrock Press
- and….Either a 10-page crit by me OR a 30-min consult on anything related to giftedness.
Cool? I hope so,
- Leave a comment
- If you tweet or spread the love, tell me and you get 1 extra entry for each thing you do
The contest runs for a week. I’ll announce the winner next Sat.
So, tell me – what do YOU do to manage emotional intensity – yours or your kids???