Happy Friday everyone! It’s blog chain time again. Mandy asked:
How do you prioritize? How do you balance paying attention to your writing, critiquing for friends, spending time with your family and earning a living?
What a great question! I did a blog post on this a few weeks ago. In that post I talked about the craziness in my life – all of the things I am involved with that both enhance and complicate my life. Basically I work a 40 hour a week job (on a mellow week), spend 30 hours or more on the craft of writing (and building my platform), am involved in my kid’s lives, have a great marriage, meditate daily, try to work out, and enjoy leisure time.
The only way this happens…
I learned a long time ago that certain things MUST be part of my life if I am going to stay in balance:
- I must meditate daily
- I stay in better balance if I eat healthy, sleep at least 6 hours, and exercise – daily (This is the hardest one for me)
- I must write consistently – it provides a creative outlet that I need as much as I need air
- I must take the time to “play” every day – and its even better if my play time is with my family
Everything else are things that I want to do…things I like to do….things that every day life requires (cleaning, paying bills, etc).
For me, the key is in doing what I must, establishing goals for my life and asking this essential question when prioritizing the rest of my to do list:
Does this activity move me in the direction of my goals?
If it does – great. If it doesn’t, it goes to the bottom of the list.
One last thing makes this all work for me…and it is something I talked about in my previous post on this subject. I do my best to live in the moment. I know, I know…it sounds trite. But really, if I can live 100% in the moment – focusing deliberately on what I am doing at the time, and not allow my brain to run amuck worrying about other things, I am able to accomplish an amazing amount of work each and everyday.
So, to sum it up –
- I know the things I MUST do everyday
- I know my life goals – everything other than the MUST dos are weighed against my life goals and prioritized from there
- I life in the moment as often as possible – choosing to deliberately focus on what I am doing as often as I can.
If I do these things, I stay in balance, the relationships in my life thrive, and I accomplish a lot.