I don’t know about you guys, but this week sure seemed to ZOOM by.
First things first – time to celebrate my contest for two signed copies of Michelle Zink’s books. Our winner, chosen by Random.Org, was:
Congrats Jeremy. We’ll get those books to you as soon as possible.
Now….for today’s ramblings –
I was thinking about life this morning as I dragged (yes dragged – 4am is VERY EARLY some days) myself out of bed. Specifically, I was thinking about the amazing writerly peeps I’ve met over the past 2 1/2 years. About those that have gone from a crit partner, beta reader, or blogging buddy to published author.
Their journeys have been unique. And their reactions to their successes – just as unique.
Some have adjusted to their newly found spotlight with grace, never really changing the core of who they are. Others….well some others have had a few more stumbling blocks through that process. And still others have morphed into people who bear little resemblance to the version of themselves prior to the agent, the book deal and the book tours.
All of this got me thinking….how does one “keep their head”, so to speak, when the realize some of their deepest desires? How do they maintain the genuineness and innocence they had prior to their successes?
I won’t lie and say I have good answers to this. But I will tell you that a lot of it has to do with knowing who you are PRIOR to your successes and remembering not to take yourself too seriously. I think it also has to do with remembering humility and constantly staying open to learning. These qualities shine in my friends who have manged to achieve pretty terrific things without having it change them in a negative way.
Now, there is a flip side I want to talk about too. Not only do people change with their success at times. But others treat them differently – and not always in a good way.
Some get jealous, looking for ways to tear their former “friends” down. Others like to cozy up to them (where they wouldn’t before). More than anything, my friends who have achieved successes with their books now have a rather LARGE spotlight on them…all the time. A target.
Not always a good thing.
You know what though, those same qualities – not taking yourself too seriously, knowing who you are, humility – those qualities help keep you sane when your faced with the more difficult aspects of achieving success.
I found this great post about surviving online criticism while I was trolling blogs this week – check it out. It s fabulous and points out some of the things we can encounter when we achieve success in this business.
I guess all these musings just made me appreciate the friends of mine that have gone through their successes with relative grace. That is certainly something I hope to balance as my books are released and if I achieve my goals in the other areas I am pursing.
Do you guys ever think about this stuff? Or am I the only crazy one that muses on stuff like this first thing in the morning???