You guys know I love Christina Katz’ newsletter, the Prosperous Writer. Well, today I received one that really made sense to me. Her focus for the week was detachment.
In the newsletter she stated that a lot of her continued success has been related to her practice of detachment – not indifference, the extreme version of detachment – but the art of not attaching to the noise that life throws at us.
She’s been living my life I think.
Since April I have been trying to focus on detachment – riding in the middle. I’ve blogged about it before, but it bears repeating…
I have had this crazy rollercoaster ride in my personal and private lives. I’ve had news that my mom had very serious cancer, and news that my own medical issues are gone. I’ve received rejection after rejection on some very dear projects, and sold others. All within a matter of hours or days.
It’s enough to make anyone a little nuts.
Unless you’ve become good at riding the middle – refusing to attach to the highs or the lows.
I haven’t always been good at this, as my online BFFs will tell you. Some days I wonder from the middle and get smacked down pretty hard by an oncoming wave of whatever.
But I have gotten better about picking myself up, dusting myself off and moving forward.
All because I am learning to ride the middle rails. Learning to show myself enough compassion to give myself a break and stop taking everything so personally!
There is real freedom in this – in finding a center flow and going with it. It is enabling me to flux between two projects, without feeling like I’ve somehow failed. And it’s enabled me to give up some other things that I has horribly, unhealthily attached to.
So, here’s my two-cent advice on this one for the day – as life throws the good and bad at you, as it always will because that is just life, do your best not to personalize or attach to it. Try to stay in the middle. See it for what it really is – just another beautiful aspect of life. Neither good nor bad…just life.
I promise, it will help when things get….intense!
What are your thoughts on this?