Happy Monday everyone! About a month ago I posted about balance and my grand plan for squeezing in writing time, social networking time, and finishing all the projects on the to-do list. If you didn’t read it, click here. One of the commenters asked me to come back in a month or so and report my progress.
So here I am…
Ready to confess my epic failure at balance!
Okay, failure is a bit strong. There have been some great successes:
- I did finish two major projects
- I did manage to blog everyday M-S, and read more blogs than I have in months
- I did manage to finish planning things I needed to plan
What I did not do…
Write much after the two projects were completed. So, in the past 3 weeks my word count (not including blog posts and such) = ZERO
Yep, zero. You know, the WiP is never gonna get finished when I have a zero word count. In truth, it was a minus word count up until a week ago, so I guess there has been progress made.
But, still – you get the point.
Now, I have discovered a few things that help me understand why my balancing act hasn’t worked as perfectly as I wanted it to…it finally donned on me that I have three distinct careers separate from the all important role of Wife and Mother. Three. That is a lot!
I have my day job – one I enjoy and one that I’ve enjoyed more this year as I’ve been able to work with more kids of late.
I am a Non-fiction writer with two books under contract. I have launches, guest appearances, speaking engagements (at major professional conferences) all to prepare for. I have my platform I need to continually build. Not to mention, I really have to finish the new book and get it to my editor in a fw months.
I am also a budding fiction writer. I am at the querying stage in this career, pushing hard to find my place in that world. I write write and write for that career, as the skill of crafting a good story is very different from the craft of crafting a good advice or parenting book.
I guess that means I should give myself a break at times when I can’t get everything done that I need to. When I can’t give each one of those aspects of my life the attention it needs.
So I am learning to prioritize. I still devote the weekend to Mom, Wife and fiction. But I am learning to stop beating myself up when the words won’t flow the way I need them to, or when what is really needed is spending the day with the kids just playing.
I am learning to let things “be” a bit more.
So, maybe the whole lesson in balancing things hasn’t been such a failure after all!
How about you guys? Now that school is back in session, how are you all balancing things?