Yes I am Gifted

As an adult acknowledging and sharing oneself as gifted is a challenge.

Many gifted adults were identified as children and then of course they “outgrew” being gifted.  Other gifted adults were never identified and struggle with being different and, of course, having a condition (whatever label that may have been assimilated/provided).  Yet, other gifted adults, may see themselves through different eyes as they raise gifted children – wake up call, validation, coincidence.  And yes, there are those who knew and know they are gifted relating to those factors readily on a day to day basis.

Coming out gifted is as important and difficult, in many cases, as – gender preferences, experiencing domestic violence, learning disabilities, and mental health dynamics – the hidden differences.  Being human involves having personal preferences and biases – from different points of view, experiences, culture.  However, that can still create uncomfortable and potential risky situations.  Yet, we have seen increased understanding through information facilitates communication and more positive interactions.

My experience is:  knowing I was smart and different and minimizing lots of the effects through early childhood with moving as a military dependent.  As a teen, being faced with several biases simultaneously and internalizing the consequences of being different with significant pain and resiliency.  Change was part of my life.  Leaving and learning was too.  Being responsible and moving forward was another aspect.  All that is good and yet has it disadvantages, also.  I developed strategies of meeting many expectations (mine, parents, and others) and my needs.  Some of those strategies included blending in, dumbing down, minimizing emotional response, leading from others perspectives, and being selective on goals / dreams.

Coming out gifted for me means – gaining understanding of being gifted, my giftedness, and other factors that impact who I am;  overcoming  the void of not fitting in and attempting mediocrity, as well as the intensity and expectations;  developing skills needed that do not come easy, mastery of my talents, and balance of all the facets of being gifted and life;  expressing giftedness with exuberance just for me and for the world; and finally connecting with myself, others like me, others around me and those marvelous dots.

Our world society is talking about needing a renaissance to manage the mess we are in today (messes have existed throughout history so that is not new).  A renaissance involves creativity, innovation, change, leadership, respect, passion, compassion, ideas, discoveries, new thought, etc.  Thus we see and need minds that go beyond, that are exceptional, that make leaps, and that see the big picture.  And, those minds belong to gifted adults and adults-to-be.  You and me!

There are discussions happening from different perspectives (business, education, coaching, counseling, leadership training, nonconformity, uncollege, etc.) to discover and express your abilities, passions, dreams to meet your needs and create change for the better.  True not all of that refers to being “gifted”, but an emphasis on self-development and beneficial interchange for the world.  We, as gifted, need to be part of that trend/revolution.

Opportunities to gain more understanding and interact with others are available with:

Giftedness across the Life Span: When it Looks Like Psychopathology but Isn’t

Presented and developed by Lisa Erickson, MS, LMHC    April 6th, 2012   This workshop is for Mental Health Professionals

“Giftedness can be easy to miss.  The psychological characteristics of giftedness are not recognized by most clinicians. But, their effect on treatment can be strongly positive or negative. Gifted people may be misdiagnosed as having learning disabilities, mood disorders, or Axis II disorders, including narcissism. They may also have difficulties with addictions. If you are having challenges with clients not improving as expected, unidentified giftedness may be one factor to consider.”

http://www.cascadia-training.org/course-detail.php?tn=4&id=9

Lisa Erickson’s article on Coming Out Gifted  —  http://www.cascadia-training.org/assets/docs/ComingoutGifted2.pdf

Institute for the Study of Advanced Development  Director, Dr. Linda Silverman

“ISAD currently publishes the yearly Advanced Development Journal, the only peer-reviewed journal dedicated to questions of adult giftedness. Last April, they even held the first-ever Symposium on Adult Giftedness. And in 2012, July19-21, they’re hosting the 10th International Dabrowski Conference. The conference is aimed at helping gifted adults and the parents of gifted kids.”

http://www.care2.com/causes/what-happens-when-gifted-kids-grow-up.html

More information and perspectives can be found at my site http://www.howtoinlife.com

7 thoughts on “Yes I am Gifted

  1. Thanks for this. Self-recognition is such an important issue for high ability people. There are both English and Spanish versions of Lisa Erickson’s articles on my site. She writes, “The caller says they went to my website and started to cry…There is only one page that evokes this response. The caller has read about giftedness on my website…”
    http://highability.org/529/coming-out-gifted/

  2. I remember reading Lisa Erickson’s page and almost crying myself. I had been looking for information about my son’s issues and I discovered the biggest disaster of my own life.
    I was identified as gifted and went through excellent schooling and it still came as a shock how much I had suffered because of misunderstanding of my giftedness.

    1. Christine Fonseca

      Thank you Lisa, but one of my co-bloggers, Edith Johnston, is the author of this post. Best of luck at SENG. I was presenting as well, and sadly had to back out recently

  3. Appreciate the comments, the sharing of experiences, and sharing information – understanding – information is empowering. Connecting creates support, confidence, and synergistic happenings in the big picture. Thank you all.

  4. Pingback: The Trouble with Passing for “Normal”: Especially for our Gifted Girls, Part II « Kate Arms-Roberts

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