Bullying is an act often shrouded in secrecy. The bully uses shame to keep their victims quiet. But our kids DO tell us when they are being bullied – if we know what to look for:
Changes in behavior are some of the first signs of bullying. The sudden onset of some of the behaviors below can indicate that your child is experiencing acts of bullying:
- School refusal or a sudden lack of interest in school
- Changes in the route your child takes to get to school, or to navigate the campus
- A sudden and/or significant drop in grades
- Unusual isolation
- Appears sad or scared after school or after phone calls, texts or time on the computer
- Complains of unexplained physical ailments, bruises, headaches, or changes in sleep patterns
All of these can be warning signs of potential bullying.
A few other signs include:
- Taking their parents money (to pay the bully)
- Coming home hungry for unexplained reasons
- Acting very out of character
If your child is displaying these subtle signs that something is wrong, take the time to connect with your child and figure out what has happened. I know we get busy in our lives, and these signs are subtle – however, missing these signs can lead to a tailspin. One which often has very significant impact to the child!
I will talk more about the tailspin in future posts.Until then, stay safe and learn to recognize the subtle changes in behavior our kids demonstrate as a way to call for help.