College Degrees and more Degrees


A thirst for knowledge.

A passion for learning.

An obsession with exploration.

A delight in discovery.

A plan for the future.

Gaining skills for a career.

These are all part of going to college and earning degrees. 

Many interests lead to pursuing many avenues in college, some leading to degrees, some just to learn.  Also the many interests can be a distraction and limit a focus.  Very seldom is there guidance in choosing an avenue to pursue.  Usually the academic guidance is to help you check off the required courses for specific degree requirements.

The decision to graduate is made.  A degree is earned.  Employment is explored.  Industry standards for entering different fields are discovered or further understood.  Earning potential is identified.  Jobs are tried on for size.  For many different reasons, further education becomes the next step.

Another degree.              Off to work.

Is there the possibility that you do not fit in?  Is there the possibility you are bored?  Is there the possibility that the field is changing?  Back to college and another degree?

Multiple degrees can provide options.  Multiple degrees can be seen as “overqualified” and thus a disinterest by employers.  Degrees in a variety of fields can be a jumping off place or a barrier to a “focused” (maybe ‘traditional’) career path.

Industry standards – degrees, certifications, licenses — where will lead?  What does it offer?

Many decisions,

 Many frustrations,

Opportunities and barriers.

Undertone of wanting to learn and learn some more.

The ability to put the knowledge from the many degrees together or avidly pursue each one separately.

 Yes, revisiting school can be a lifelong process.

Decluttering


Clutter accumulates in our space and in our mind.  The mind finds way to file things and close doors.  Other times the clutter of the mind leads to overwhelm.  Lots of decisions to make and responsibilities to manage contribute to clutter and overwhelm.  The amount of input we receive from our observation and connection abilities lead to clutter.  Our emotional intensities lead to clutter.  It piles higher and higher, enveloping the space within the mind.  What can we do to declutter?

Physical space reflects and has an effect on the clutter of our minds.  Thus, decluttering our living and work space, creating organization and clear areas, helps to declutter the minds storage banks and processing centers.

Morning pages (Julia Cameron); Journaling; doodling; are ways to clear the mind and declutter.

Meditation – formal/structure, walking, music, a format that works for you; also clears the mind and declutters (provides the space for the brain to reorganize the information).

Physical exercise allows for release, clarity – and thus decluttering.

An idea book is a place to write down (electronically record) all the ideas, connections, solutions, questions that come to mind and one does not have to try to remember freeing space and energy.

The emotions and intensities are facilitated by the above methods.  Another method is identifying the emotion and using such things as acupressure and flower essences to integrate and formulate the experience.  And remember conscious breathing is of great value for all of the above.

Understanding your values and their priority at this time in your life helps to bring clarity, focus, organization of the data input, experiences, sensations, decisions, etc – thus minimizing the clutter.

How do you experience clutter?  What are you doing to declutter?  What happens for you with decluttering?

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Edith writes at Howtoinlife.com  – sharing thoughts, experiences and resources for personal development of multi-talents.

Summer Fun – a change in pace


summer play

summer play

Summer provides the opportunity to be outdoors with sunshine, warmth, and longer days. It is a time for a change in pace, either more or less, faster or more leisurely.

I enjoy moderate temperatures and walks in nature and time to set by a stream or climb a mountain.  It is also a time to enjoy childlike play and watch the children play.

Summer is a natural time for exuberance – jumping for joy, turning in circles, dancing in the rain, running across fields, looking under rocks, or splashing in the water.

Summer is a time for the hard work that leads to new growth resulting in a fall harvest.

Summer is the time of the butterfly dance, the birds’ song, the crickets’ music, and the new borns’ frolics.

Summer continues to involve the day to day routines of working, eating and sleeping and yet oozes with plan and new discoveries.

Summer says it is ok to chase your tail in circles, step right in the middle of a puddle, or lay on your back and watch the clouds pass by.

Summer is Fun – a change of pace.

Enough is Enough – Saying No is Bouncing Back


Enough is enough when you are asked to do many things, or expect many things of yourself.  Part of resiliency strategy is saying no, setting boundaries.  Knowing your own limits, priorities and the balance you desire lets you maintain a greater consistency of energy.

Yes, we are high energy individuals and many times driven and thus exhaustion can take its toll.  Healthy habits – rest, water, food are all part of the formula.  The key is to know one’s self and to bring your unique balance to your life.  Balance can include peak performance, pursuing multiple interests, doing for others, withdrawing, seeking solitude, focus on a passion, and so on.  Resiliency is stretching the rubber band to expand and grow and yet maintaining the components that contribute to who you are so that the rubber band has the means to stretch.

Enough is enough is also when stagnation, routine, mediocrity, boredom set in and there is an internal experience of void and/or chaos.  You must know yourself to identify the experience, have the awareness and understanding to be able to take action.  Resiliency means drawing on your strength and act in accordance to your values, abilities, desires, dreams to be who you are and make the contribution of your choice.  Living is an active state and a state of choice.  The living tree is strong and can withstand and yet flexible to withstand.

Accountability and responsibility come with choice.  Respect of self is needed to make choice and follow through with action.  The expression through your actions is your choice.  Yes this sounds circular and yet is wholeness.  Resiliency comes with taking control of your life and knowing there is not absolute control.  Flow as the river and flow as in singular focus are important for a resilient life.

No the experience is not continuous.  We experience the ups and downs, the fullness and emptiness, the depression and joy.  Life is full of cycles.  Resilience is to know the cycles and know the moments with the ability to return to the moments.   As with water and its many phases we too must have phases for day to day living and for living our dreams.  May you know and experience resiliency.

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Edith shares more of personal development for multi-talents at howtoinlife.com

My Body feels drained or is it my Soul?


That point of total exhaustion – and yes, it is body, mind, and soul.  Having immersed myself in various projects – many times simultaneously (somewhat out of necessity), I reach a point where there are no more resources to draw on.  The ‘to do’ and ‘want to’ lists have not gone away, just running below empty.   Yes, below empty because the output is more than full tilt.  Nurturing the Soul just became a necessity.

Do you ever get to that point?

Picture -  hands wringing, pacing, face scrunched, saying “What to do, what to do?”

Best starting point is BREATHING.   I also fall back on some of my techniques and modalities for reconnecting and rejuvenating my body, mind, and soul.  I use Jin Shin Acupressure, Flower Essences, drawing Mandalas, breathing, exercise, walks (especially in nature settings), reading, and have to watch out or eating enters the formula.    Then I give myself permission to stop and play; not to have to do it all today.

The trick is to build nurturing the Soul into the daily routine.  The intensity of life’s “routine” experiences requires frequent nurturing of the Soul.

Another wearing on the Soul is that many times nurturing can be very exuberant and watch out for the reactions of others. –à Lean your head back, shake your hair from side to side with a gentle breeze caressing you, and laugh out loud.  Be comfortable in your own skin and the Soul shines through.  (And yes singing in the shower or dancing in the garage is ok too.)

PLAY– Something that will make our hearts sing, souls dance, and can be remembered again and again with joy and happiness.  Barbara Brennen in ‘The Gift of Play’.

Yes nurture your Soul through play.  Play often – it is productive, it nurtures your soul!

What do you do to Nurture your Soul?  How do you PLAY?

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Edith shares more thoughts, tools, and experiences at How To In Life

Adult Enrichment and Creativity


We focus tremendously and appropriately on providing enrichment and stimulating creativity in children. What about us as adults?

Our soul, our intensity, our internal drive thirsts for creative expression and cultivation through enrichment.  This means times for play, pursuit of something new as a result of curiosity, delving into something that seems irrelevant because it caught our attention, getting our hands dirty, listening and daydreaming, excusing ourselves to be with children, and….

Without enrichment and creative expression we lose our ability to make leaps, experience the flow, manifest ideas, identify multiple solutions, or…  We are also grouchy, less energetic, feel lost, withdraw, or become numb.

Part of the process is giving us permission.  Knowing it is OK to have a day that nothing is planned, nothing needs to be accomplished, to have a few minutes of wistful thinking or daydreaming, to indulge yourself in puttering, or to walk beside the river, set on the grass, see pictures in the clouds.

Next what have you put off trying new or did often when younger and do not any more (‘not enough time’).   Yes make a list – your loves, your bucket list, your wishes.  You need to feed your soul with enrichment and opportunities to create.  You’ve made the list now be sure you put it on your schedule.  Do it, enjoy it, allow it, experience it – you, the child, coming out to play.

What will it be to today – doodling, making mud pies (either with dirt or luscious chocolate delicacies), exploring subatomic matter, staying up all night to see the various astronomy wonders or …?  What will bring a smile to your face, a twinkle in your eyes, relaxation to shoulders and at the same time bring you to the excitement and enthusiasm of being on edge?

Embed in your daily schedule (yes one more thing) to put that bounce into your step – enrichment and creativity.

What do you do for enrichment and creativity?  Let us know you could stimulate someone else to pursue an adventure.

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Edith meanders through various thoughts and experiences at her howtoinlife.com blog .

Love, the Heart, and Gifted


So as I try to decide how to write this post and complete the month’s topic, I sift through the various ways to approach the subject.  I have many different ideas – the connection between the heart and the mind; the passions and pursuit; the ideas and the emotions; the delights and tribulations; relationships with others /with self; introspection or connecting with the world around.  All of these are aspects of love, the heart and being gifted.

The fascination with many ideas and seeing various perspectives is at the heart of being gifted.   I love to look at something from many points of view or brainstorm to create multitude possibilities.  That is the working of the mind and yet brings the emotion of delight in the process.

Relationships are intense.   There is no doubt the heart is involved as a whole or in the resulting many pieces.  The caring for significant others, our children, our family and friends … and yes the kindred spirit of all humans is so much at the heart of being gifted.  We want to joyfully embrace those in our lives and reach out to all in the world.

Passions… what is there not to be passionate about?  Maybe that is an exaggeration.  We do each have individual passions.  However, living life, exploring the world, making new discoveries, playing in the sand, dancing on the roof tops, playing or listening to music…are all done with great passion and sincerity (which many find hard to believe).  These are all from our heart and done with love.

How often do you wear your heart on your sleeve?  How often are you frustrated because there is not the right emoticon or enough emoticons to express what you are feeling?  It does not matter whether it is delights or tribulations – it is a roller coaster ride with all the fireworks.  That is at the heart of being gifted.

Now dear mind, dear heart – still yourself.  Breathe, follow the breath, slowly in and out to the depths.  Time to go inside and be one with your heart and mind.  Feel  the calm.  Know the center.  Understand the multitude of your being.  Accept your love of being gifted.  Namaste.

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Edith shares more at howtoinlife.com  

New for today


I started in 2012 with a promise to myself to do something new – either never done before by me or not done for a long time.  I have made that a life time process now.  Last year I made it indoor skydiving, horseback riding,  a road trip to an Opal Mine and Yellowstone-Tetons, rented a forest service cabin in the La Sal National Forest, spent a weekend at Vapor Caves and Spa —– well you get the idea.

I am continuing this year already with returning to Tai Chi, Qi Gong classes.  Planning the basement remodel (yes out of necessity, yet it will be NEW).  Some plans include joining some groups I am a member of for their conferences, hiking to see the wild horses, and whatever else I can come up with.

Doing something new brings vitality, release, excitement, discovery, adventure, thrill, relaxation… many emotions and experiences.  New beginnings bring growth and opportunities.

Each day is a new beginning with a fresh attitude and potential to look at things differently.  I can write a new page of my story.  Oh, there are days and moments that I cannot see beyond whatever muddle I am stuck in.  However, with the intention of looking for a new beginning the rebound comes quicker and a new chapter begins.

Experiencing the newness in relationships, on the job, different activities, goals, learning and playing is very much a part of life.  Many times we neglect to be aware of that newness.  We become stuck in a rut, routine, familiarity, complacency, or maybe our own intensity.  Similar to breathing – we do it automatically (and not always well).  However, when we become aware of our breath and consciously breathe in and out, our energy changes; there is a different awareness; there is a letting go; there is newness.  And with an awareness of the moment we see the flower blooming (not just in bloom); we hear the melody of the birds singing (not just the chirping); we feel the emotion, including the intensity, of the interaction.  We are new.

We are new – literally – (someone – provide the details again of how we change every day with the replacement of all the cells in our body).  We are new – our thoughts and experiences are constantly changing.  We are new – there has been no other person like us and no other moment like this.  Be conscious of the newness and have fun!

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Edith blogs regularly sharing her thoughts and tools for personal development of multi-talents at www.howtoinlife.com

Flash Mobs — JOY


Flash Mobs have been a way to stop the chaos of the day and have a shared moment of delight.  Do you notice that most everyone enJOYs the moment and stops to be a part?  One tidbit online shows the trending way to propose is in a Flash Mob presentation, a moment of joy within a joyful event.  Planned and yet spontaneous – Joy.

I can be going through the day – be down or be happy and the lyrics from a childhood song will come to mind to cheer me or express the moment…. I’ve got joy, joy, joy …down in my heart, down in my heart, down in my heart …to stay!  Daily life is truly a roller coaster – with high sensitivities and intensity – it is a very fast moving roller coaster with significant magnitude.  With that as a contributing factor, my joy can be a little zealous at times.  Two things then come into play – need to fit in so tone down the excitement, delight, exuberance – otherwise get those weird looks and comments, “why are you so happy?” The answer is many times I don’t know, I am.  The second thing that comes in to play is my wariness, as I know the crash is coming and then need to moderate that experience.

And still, JOY is very desirable – it is pleasant, warm, and fun feeling.  It can be the littlest things – comments this week on facebook – “hearing my child – whistling, singing, playing in the house for the holiday – brings me JOY”.  Other little things can be noticing – snowflakes, ice formations, flowers, drops of rain, rainbows, butterflies, the silly smile or position of your pet, and…….   Then there is the ongoing or new relationships; being in the flow; sudden windfalls (of minor or major proportions); figuring out the next step for a goal or a problem solution; and …..  Breathing is a joy, not usually noticed.  Are we noticing our joy?  Are we experiencing our joy? Are we sharing our joy?

Joy to you and me and the world this holiday season!

Take a moment and share a moment of your joy here with all of us….

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Edith can be found sharing joy and many other thoughts at www.howtoinlife.com

Intensity of Gratitude or Gratitude for Intensity


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Gratitude is an emotion, an attitude, a frame of mind and all part of the roller coaster I experience as life with intensity.  Yes when I am grateful, appreciative, thankful – I may bow down to you and get on my hands and knees or jump up and down with an excited dance.  Yes gratitude can be intense.  Then I am grateful for the intensity in my experience and expression of life.  The vivid colors I see, the subtle differences in sounds I hear, the rapid connections and leaps in ideas are oh so marvelous and I am thankful for encounter on all levels.

Some thoughts by Sue Patton Thoele:  “Gratitude, like laughter and humor, lifts our spirits and hearts and encourages us to ascend into the realms of joy and appreciation.  It makes us thankful for the incredible gift of life that we’ve been given and for the people who have chosen to share it with us.            Gratitude gentles even the roughest roads and gives wings to the heart.  Buoyed by gratitude, we can sail over most situations while keeping healthy, and even joyful, perspective on the landscape of our lives.”

“As we gently learn to believe in our own worth, gratitude for our unique individuality is the result.”

“ We also need to be especially gentle with ourselves when we misplace our sense of gratitude.  We are human, and, when the pain in our hearts becomes acute, we sometimes forget to be grateful.  That’s okay, because we can always reclaim our gratitude.  And as we remember to drink the sweet nectar of gratitude toward ourselves, the cup naturally passes to those whom we love.”

Remember the roller coaster with its up and downs.  Remember the Intensity –of gratitude and gratitude for.

Any preferred emotion, attitude, or habit of action takes practice.  The Alphabet of gratitude is a fun way to practice being grateful.

I am grateful:

A -  I am grateful for All  – things and people.  Or the apple for the nutrition it provides, the seed for growth it represents, the sweet / tart taste experience.

B – Bad time lessons; the basketball game watching the boys play, brothers

C – for the courage to continue; the cat rubbing against my leg

D – the devastation I have muddled through; the dreams translating to realities

E – the egg, sunny side up; the enthusiastic greetings of people gathering

F – Family, Friends, Father, Fun times; the failures I have got up from and failed again to overcome or accomplish

G – the grass, the greenery, the ground; the grasping at straws and grabbing hold of one

H – hope, help, health; hard times that stretch us beyond

I – INTENSITY……..

J – joy, justice, jubilation; jealousy and jerks that provide an opportunity for an attitude shift

K – kindness, kitchen sink, kettle for homemade soup

L – Life, Love, little brother and sister, landscapes to admire-to cross

M –mountains, Mother, mistakes

N – nothing – think again; notions, nudges, nuts

O – oblivion, opportunities, oceans

P – parents, people, pets, pockets, pistol-packing-momma

Q – quiet, quirky, quizzical

R – rowdy, races,  open roads, relationships

S – sunsets, sunrises, sisters, sacrifices, sharing

T – tolerance, tragedy, time

U – underachievement, unity, useful tools

V – vinegar, vitamins, vitality

W – water, wishes, wander lust, waste, work

X – xrays (a word for scrabble of course), xenobiotic, xenophilia (had to have some fun)

Z – It’s been a zoo to add some order to this intense chaos – smile – an everyday experience.

What would be in your Alphabet Soup of Gratitude???

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Edith can be found sharing notes, thoughts, experiences, question with or without answers at How To In Life. Com