Well, here I am again, talking about drowning (or being in the weeds, etc). It is a well-known fact that I take on too much. There, I’ve admitted it. I have a hard time saying “no” to things. It isn’t that I don’t want to offend people; or that, like so many other bright individuals, I feel like I have to say yes all the time. No, for me it is a different set of issues all together. Two of them to be exact:
- I feel like I need to prove myself over and over – and saying “yes” somehow does that (I already know the fault in my thinking, trust me)
- I generally under-estimate my fatigue with some projects and resultant time delay on others.
It’s a never-ending cycle…
And one I hate.
There is nothing worse than feeling like I’ve let others down – or worse, let myself down over and over and over again.
So, I am getting real with myself and adjusting my expectations and goals.
For example – my original writing goal for 2014 was as follows:
- NONFICTION – complete two nonfiction manuscripts and a nonfiction proposal
- FICTION – complete and release three books and one short story
What the heck was I thinking??? Even looking at this all typed out is enough to give me a mini panic attack!
The revised goal is a tad more reasonable:
- NONFICTION – Complete manuscript on contract (by July) and research for second NF manuscript under contract
- FICTION – complete Collide for a summer release and complete a draft (minimum) of the first book in the Tempting Fate series
- Additional writing – Update social media presence (over summer); blog schedule for fall 2014-summer 2015; release schedule for same time frame
See – much more reasonable. So much so, that I swear I feel a TON better.
I’ve revamped my other goals as well, putting an emphasis on both realistic expectations for myself and giving myself permission to NOT be everything to everyone. It’s a small start on regain the balance since my mom died – but an important one!
What do you do when you get overwhelmed?